What if they think I am weird? Navigating anxiety, fear, and feelings of rejection while trying to create relationships can add a whole other layer to what may already be a challenging process. First and foremost, it is important to remember that experiencing anxiety is both normal and extremely common, both in general and while creating relationships.
Acknowledging that you are experiencing anxiety is the first step to managing it. Next, consider reflecting on when and how you experience anxiety in the context of relationship building. You may ask yourself:
- When does my anxiety come up?
- When does my anxiety feel most intense?
- Does my physical environment impact my anxiety (ex. Outside vs inside, crowded space vs. empty space, public vs private setting)?
- Am I more able to manage my anxiety with one-on-one interactions, small groups, or large groups?
- Are there times of day where it is easier for me to spend time interacting with others/ making friends/ creating relationships?
Considering these questions may help you find ways to lessen your anxiety and/ or provide more comfortable environments in which you can explore relationships. Remember – it is always okay to pace yourself, take it slow, and take a step back if things get overwhelming.
Anxiety is so common – consider sharing how you are feeling with others. They may be feeling the same way and/or have tools that help them tame their own anxiety to share with you. Anxiety can feel so isolating and lonely; sometimes sharing with others can help lessen the load.
For more information about anxiety and panic attacks, take a look at these two infosheets.
Campus Spotlight:
The Sexual Education Centre at the University of Toronto is a non-for-profit, volunteer-run student service group that offers phone support, peer support, and resources around human sexuality, sexual diversity and sexual orientation in a welcoming environment.
